tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post6987445357979738398..comments2023-05-04T03:37:04.200-07:00Comments on The Rouge Wave: He's Just Not That Into YouJulie Grayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14690487940378619749noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-38112048395288088322008-07-16T11:58:00.000-07:002008-07-16T11:58:00.000-07:00I think you know the answer to that without me hav...I think you know the answer to that without me having to say a thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-66418304925140810222008-07-16T10:17:00.000-07:002008-07-16T10:17:00.000-07:00You callin' the Wave-inatrix a masochist, Pete? Hu...You callin' the Wave-inatrix a masochist, Pete? Huh? :)Julie Grayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14690487940378619749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-48599645096186356712008-07-16T09:58:00.000-07:002008-07-16T09:58:00.000-07:00You know what made me sideline my writing ambition...You know what made me sideline my writing ambitions more than anything else? <BR/><BR/>Being an editor. <BR/><BR/>As MaggieB said, being on the other side is a real eye-opener. When I first got an editor's position, I promised myself that I would never do to writers all the things that I hated having done to me. I would always reply to submissions and I would always offer real feedback if I requested a manuscript. <BR/><BR/>Know how long that lasted? About 20 minutes, at which point my incoming emails hit about 300. <BR/><BR/>There's always a reason things are the way they are. And those reasons never have anything to do with the higher ideals of Creativity and Art.<BR/><BR/>I'll say here what I've said a thousand times before – if there's anything you can possibly do other than write, <I>do it</I>. Being a creative professional of any kind sucks. If you're not so driven to do it that you can't possibly do anything else, don't subject yourself to the torture.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-33588895746058032252008-07-16T08:49:00.000-07:002008-07-16T08:49:00.000-07:00Why thank you, Anonymous. Now get back to work! :)...Why thank you, Anonymous. Now get back to work! :)Julie Grayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14690487940378619749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-73573046011219677682008-07-16T08:34:00.000-07:002008-07-16T08:34:00.000-07:00Julie, even on my vacation I couldn't help to find...Julie, even on my vacation I couldn't help to find a WiFi spot to read your blog. I'm looking out to the Atlantic ocean and wondering who is this person? It's such a vast space and I just happened to stumble across this person, virtually, who speaks about my work passionately, and never fails to motivate my aspiration for becoming a filmmaker. I think you're my Lady Luck. Not with a magic wan, but a whip in one hand and a cupcake in other. Anyone who quits, even after their interaction with you, simply a quitter. And nothing you, Julie, can do. No one on this earth would even response to that attitude as you did in this post.<BR/><BR/>PS. My SP has just advanced in the QF round of PAGE International Competition this week.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-62258311549499275972008-07-15T16:20:00.000-07:002008-07-15T16:20:00.000-07:00I just finished a gig managing my husband's art ga...I just finished a gig managing my husband's art gallery for two and a half years and being on the other side of the desk was eye opening. Artist submissions streamed in via mail and email constantly even when we publicized that our submission process was closed. It was overwhelming. <BR/><BR/>As a writer, I have to say it paralyzed me for awhile when I came to viscerally realize the situation facing agents, managers and production companies vis a vis writers sending queries but I was also able to observe the process whereby we would decide to take on a new artist and that was also eye opening. <BR/><BR/>So I just want to say, extrapolating from my art gallery experience, that Julie's advice in this post is absolutely 100% right on the money. <BR/><BR/>MaggieBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-72066751947027528972008-07-15T15:50:00.000-07:002008-07-15T15:50:00.000-07:00Alice,Don’t quit. At least not before asking yours...Alice,<BR/>Don’t quit. At least not before asking yourself: Why do I write? <BR/><BR/>Do you write to make money? To garner fame? Is it an ego thing? Or.<BR/><BR/>Do you write because you must? Can you go through life and NOT write? If you write for money, fame, or ego, then by all means, quit.<BR/><BR/>I you write because you cannot NOT write, because writing is in your DNA, because you are unhappy when you don’t/can’t write – don’t quit. Not ever. <BR/><BR/>Think long and hard – dig deep – understand what it is you expect from writing.<BR/>Then keep writing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06049994740206192526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-89229150131230171722008-07-15T15:01:00.000-07:002008-07-15T15:01:00.000-07:00What Julie said. Triple.And Alice, I'm sorry you f...What Julie said. Triple.<BR/><BR/>And Alice, I'm sorry you feel that way, but if you do and it's not just a momentary rant, then you probably weren't that committed to begin with.<BR/><BR/>You don't choose to be a writer. It chooses you.PJ McIlvainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15496990000619350774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-51564065264736466772008-07-15T11:51:00.000-07:002008-07-15T11:51:00.000-07:00>>It is luck. And connections. It is persistence, ...>>It is luck. And connections. It is persistence, it is talent and it is ambition. In about that order.<BR/><BR/>Thank you.<BR/><BR/>I just had one of those moments. You know the ones -- you look back twenty years later and say "this is when I decided to make this change."<BR/><BR/>I'm done. I'm giving up. If you -- with all your wisdom -- puts talent as the 4th most important thing one needs to make it as a writer, then I have no chance. All I can control is my writing, and that isn't even in the money in importance.<BR/><BR/>I know I control persistence, even that's number three. Luck? Can't control it. Connections? What realistic chance do most of us have of making really meaningful connections? You've got all the connections in the world, and it hasn't been enough for you yet.<BR/><BR/>I'm not kidding. Thank you. I'm done with the pipe dream. Hollywood is a lottery, and I'm not a gambler.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-75529418670549887092008-07-15T11:09:00.000-07:002008-07-15T11:09:00.000-07:00It is luck. And connections. It is persistence, it...It is luck. And connections. It is persistence, it is talent and it is ambition. In about that order. Though many would argue and they are right to do so. I am in an enviable position; I read scripts and work with writers for a living. And I love it. It keeps me in the mix, it keeps me inspired and it keeps me connected. It also makes it really hard to find my own time to write. But when I do? Do I have great connections for my own work? Yes I do. For me, it's about finding balance. It's hard to give a lot of attention to my own writing career when I am putting most of my energy into helping others. Will I eventually have to choose one or the other? Maybe. But I don't subscribe to a binary view - either or. All things are possible when you are driven and I am nothing if not driven. Don't get depressed; depression about this endeavor is a one-way ticket to giving up. I mean, it's normal to get down about this kind of thing. But you can't let it drive your choices. If you have luck, connections, persistence, talent and ambition, it is my belief that eventually, some way, somehow you are going to make it. Never surrender. Never give up. Or is it Never give up. Never surrender. You get it. Let me provide inspiration and support, let me be a cautionary tale, let me entertain you along the ride. That's what I'm here for. I believe in writers and creation. So should you.Julie Grayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14690487940378619749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-4185953443946490692008-07-15T11:01:00.000-07:002008-07-15T11:01:00.000-07:00I'm just going to vomit out all this -- excuse my ...I'm just going to vomit out all this -- excuse my rant.<BR/><BR/>This post depressed me so much. And it made me ask -- is it all luck?<BR/><BR/>I know. Weird reaction. But you talking about becoming a manager kind of says that you're considering not writing. I know, I'm sure you'll always write, but if you're a good full time manager writing isn't your main thing, you know?<BR/><BR/>And that's when I got depressed. You know more about screenwriting than any five writers put together. Your writing here is so funny and captivating that I'm sure your screenplays are equally so. And you know structure and character and everything so inside out that no one out there is beating you on talent or knowledge.<BR/><BR/>You even have representation. And you have contacts up the wazoo.<BR/><BR/>So if you're not writing for a living, what chance do I have? I don't know as much as you. I don't know as many people as you. My writing isn't as interesting as yours. <BR/><BR/>If you haven't made it yet, who does? Is it really luck?<BR/><BR/>Sigh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8496585120938599514.post-53317585871589757442008-07-15T10:48:00.000-07:002008-07-15T10:48:00.000-07:00Hey Julie,Something tells me this.An employee must...Hey Julie,<BR/><BR/>Something tells me this.<BR/><BR/>An employee must kindly control and kindly manage his Boss. Good cop always.<BR/><BR/>Same applies to working with a Manager/agent.<BR/><BR/>I am super nice, respectful and patience to my Manager.<BR/><BR/>He takes my calls but not the others. Others left the business, puffing.<BR/><BR/>There is a big difference with writers and managers and agents.<BR/><BR/>I love managers cause they are opposites of me.<BR/><BR/>Just like in a perfect marriage - opposite attracts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com